Self Honesty: Key Law of Grace
Self-honesty, the willingness to truly see what you are doing internally is a foundational multiplier of Presence and awakening. Its a critical aspect often overlooked. To be self honest is uncomfortable to the ego our sense of ‘false-self’. The video will require re-watching as it covers many layers.
Self Honesty as a measurement
Self Honesty is hard to measure! But it can be done. As I mention in some videos I talk about iconic sports stars. How do you measure your input or effort? It takes practice. Honesty is also related to your ability to see your unconscious processes.
What is 90% of your best today will be 25% of your best in a year, maybe. But the point here is as you deepen it all changes. Is it your current best is a better question. The intention to look, notice and examine for feedback is the key to self honesty. To check the critical indicators to see if the aspect being examined is real or just a mind construction.
As you practice you become aware of the nuances. These nuances open up other levels of honesty.
As I say in the Awakening Defined page as you deepen you become more sensitive to your inner stuff and people. So what before felt small now feels huge! Its just you have undone your insensitivity and dealt to it. This issue of sensitivity is addressed in the Laws of Grace online course, forming the habit of correct Presence practice helps you to adjust to this new feeling sensitivity. This is one of the dichotomies of becoming more enlightened.
I often use the metaphor of tennis, Roger Federer knows the nuances of a tennis to be world class at it, I do not. You become the Rodger of your own honesty. Being grounded in the body tells you clearly. Having the willingness to feel everything means you can no longer be deluded and unconscious. The upside if that Presence and the true You is very ecstatic, and that can be experienced concurrently with any unpleasant situation. You will build this evidence under the Rules of Evidence and know this from fact as your practice improves.
How to be Self Honest
Remembering to remember is a key Law of Grace, where the laws of Grace are the direct principles of Awakening.
Emotional Intelligence: To be able to hold emotions in Presence gives you the ability to be fully functional in all of life’s tough times.
Being grounded: To be grounded means you are associated into your body. You can feel your body’s status and sense clearly what is required. Being grounded may feel nice or feel horrible due to physical pain.
Dispel the myth that feeling OK or good is Presence. Presence is Presence. Presence allows any feelings, emotion, pains and situations in life just to be ‘as they are’. Hence the Laws of Grace online course is designed as a habit forming video course to drill this in to assist your neurology, psychology and emotional systems to re-align to the new habit of practising correct Presence Practice.
Self Honesty in plain English for children and teenagers
I teach this same principle to students at StudentSuccessTutor.com. Its a core requisite for learning easily. It is required for state awareness to enter the Learning State (the neurological equivalent of Presence in this website). I also term self honesty and self responsibility as Law Zero in that website.
I say there that they are as important as breathing if one is to live a life of happiness & success. Self-honesty is the first of these two foundational human traits. It is important to know that these can be developed. Regardless of how psychologically advanced you may be, these traits can be further refined and enhanced.
Morality and Awakening
Morality in the context of Awakening isn’t the same as self-honesty. Morality is to do with conduct with the outside world.
As you awaken you see the dichotomies of mortality of right/wrong, good/bad. Rules set by any external source are seen for what they are. They may be guidance for the less-wise or something that is functional, like stopping at a red traffic light. Aspects of this are discussed in the advanced Awakening page. As one deepens into the deeper levels of awakening one has to face the issues what is good/bad or right or wrong and move from a place of impartial beingness. Some of these lessons are quite challenging.
One of the prime directives (the operation rules) of the unconscious mind is to naturally be a moral good being. Others include to serve and be happy. This is how the baby is born. Only trauma and bad role modelling (including genetics) by those around the baby will impact this natural moral behaviour.
I love the Adyashanti’s saying “you know when you say or do the wrong thing, its like poison has been released in your blood, it just feels off!“
This is how Awakening is self regulating. As you deepen you find you just can’t do small “less than” things any more. You become moral, not because of a religion or teacher tells you to but because it feels truly like poison in your body. This is why religions tend to have rules, like the bible and the 10 commandments. When Enlightened the fallacy of these is rules and shoulds are seen.
As you become more self honest you will walk the talk with greater degrees of accuracy. You will live the evidence under the Rules of Evidence.