Emotional intelligence

Myths about emotions and Enlightenment are busted in this video. Its an important topic
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Emotional intelligence = less suffering

Emotions are a major aspect of being human. Most humans tend to be run by their emotions which leads to behaviour and outcomes that are not desirable for the person or those around them. Emotions are what cause suffering. This topic is of vital importance to understand to save decades of ‘suffering’. This page while somewhat obscure as a topic this is the KEY reason why Awakening is sought, we strive to be happy or at least at peace, especially when we are experiencing emotional states. If you are not clear on this then take up the offer below for a chat or initial session. So few understand this, only the Enlightened live it and know what the real reality is.
Emotions block our natural states called feelings. The questions to ask yourself are:

How do my emotions hold me back from doing what I want?
  How do my emotions damage how I relate to people?
How would my life be if I was not controlled by my emotions?
What bad behaviours would disappear?
How would people relate to me differently?
Can I remain calm and functional in emotionally charged and challenging situations?

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Emotional intelligence makes the difference

Emotions will always arise. It is a basic function of being human, so the questions are could you imagine how good it would be to:

Not dump emotional baggage on others and thus have relationships that are based on today, not past hurts.
Not over react in a situation and be a slave to your emotions resulting in behaviours that are destructive or unwanted.
Be comfortable in emotionally charged situation, thus be able to guide others who are lost in their emotions.
When an emotion is triggered, although it may not feel good, be able to remain calm and choose how you deal with the situation.
Stay neutral when others are in emotional reaction.
Understand and be able to use Anger, be that expressed anger or internalised anger, so situations change. Use anger cleanly as a change driver.
Once anger has been felt and used appropriately, that it is vanished and there is no fuming or after burn where the mind dwells on it.
Operate with peace and confidence when fear arises (the fear will give you extra vigilance that helps you cope).

Anybody can become emotionally intelligent

Emotional intelligence, as with anything discussed on this website, is a skill and can be learned by anybody. Practising the Laws of Grace and entering Presence develops emotional intelligence. Learning to be Present allows emotions to be as they are. As you are Present with them you learn that you are not your emotions. Thus you do not need to revert to behaviours and actions that the emotion may be drawing you into. As you develop your Presence practice, you will dissolve what Eckhart Tolle calls the pain body. The pain body is another term for emotional baggage. Once the emotional baggage is dissolved, you will notice that you react less and less and that you can choose your actions. You will then spend more time in the feelings like peace and joy.

Emotional intelligence mentoring

Emotional intelligence, as with anything discussed on this website, is a skill and can be learned by anybody. Practising the Laws of Grace and entering Presence develops emotional intelligence. Learning to be Present allows emotions to be as they are. As you are Present with them you learn that you are not your emotions. Thus you do not need to revert to behaviours and actions that the emotion may be drawing you into. As you develop your Presence practice, you will dissolve what Eckhart Tolle calls the pain body. The pain body is another term for emotional baggage. Once the emotional baggage is dissolved, you will notice that you react less and less and that you can choose your actions. You will then spend more time in the feelings like peace and joy.

The Great ‘no emotions’ myth busted

It is a great spiritual myth that emotions don’t happen when you are enlightened or highly awake. This is just another myth that slows people from coming home to peace. It sows doubt in the mind that such a way of living can never be achieved. By definition to be conscious means to be conscious regardless of what is going on.
 

Emotions are part of our core navigation system, ‘traffic lights’ to use a metaphor, that we need to function. They give us the guidance as to what is required in that moment. However this system starts to fail when emotions are not dealt with in the moment, thus they build up until they can be resolved. Then the unconscious has to regulate and protect the conscious functioning mind from overwhelm. Emotional baggage, or pain body, then starts to build up. From this place the system literally stops working correctly as Presence is the only way to release an emotion 100%.
 
You will notice that the people who claim emotions don’t arise when one is Enlightened (called Abiding Awakening, as defined in this website) are not living in that place of enlightenment. These people are not speaking from experience. This can also come from an unclear teacher or false Guru who has a control agenda. If this is case you should run away very fast!

Perhaps, just to postulate, this may be the case for a very evolved soul who resides consciously and deeply in Abiding Transpersonal Awakened Awareness, as mentioned in the advanced awakening page. But you can bet the person saying ‘emotions don’t happen when you are enlightened‘ would not even be able to define what Transpersonal Awakening is as they would be incapable of knowing it until its experienced. That is only possible after deeply Abiding for many years, as I state in the advanced awakening page. One day I’d like to meet and ask directly someone who lives in this place and get a real answer from someone who lives it. There are very few humans on the planet that live in this place of deeply connected consciousness. Having access to these people is the next issue – very hard to get personal question time with them!
 

Then one has to consider that most teachings need to be dumbed down so the masses can grasp it. Complexity isn’t good for this twitter age where 160 characters (Twitter) now run the most powerful economy in the world. If you are reading this it is testimony to your well above average attention span; awakening will be easy for you. Awakening does develop your attention span. It is the basis of the Laws of Grace! Time and attention are the core derivatives of the formula to awaken. Once Abiding this then turns into vigilance (which is an aspect of attention).

Emotions & feelings defined

Emotions in this website are defined as broadly as fear, anger, frustration, sadness, anxiety, guilt and excitement. There are many other types of emotions but generally they are close relatives or variations of those just mentioned.
This is completely different to what is defined in these pages as feelings. Feelings include peace, awareness, spaciousness, stillness, joy, happiness, openness and love. Feelings are your natural state and as you become more conscious and Present these will be much more consistent in your life in all situations. You learn to be aware of these undercurrent feelings as emotions rise and fall. Because feelings are the Real You then they are actually always there – the only thing stopping it is your “practice of not feeling them”.
 

Emotional Intelligence is the concept described by Daniel Goleman in his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. As he rightly points out; what is more important being competent with your emotions and relating well or having a smart mind? Although, unlike cognitive intelligence, your emotional intelligence is 100% able to be developed. The only question is do you want to?

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Tap these to see the video and content:
Defining Enlightenment clearly so its useful! Laws of Grace Introduction.
Defining and explaining the 2nd Level (cycle) of Enlightenment. Guided Meditations that will show you correct Presence Practice. Learn to do energy work with the Golden Ray online course (I attune you) as the gives you another 'Portal to Presence' that Eckhart Tolle does not mention.

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