Basic Inquiry method
So simple but POWERFUL
Below is a basic and very powerful Inquiry method. This method is what you use to integrate the unconscious material that you notice through behaviours and reactions you don’t like. This is perfect for things we discuss in 1on1 coaching sessions. It transforms issues into greater inner peace and awakening.
This is the basic structure of the process I use. It has evolved to its current from virtually daily use since 1995. I’m still learning new nuances to this powerful evolving process, and that is after 9 years of Abiding Awakening! It is not a process you ever grow out of if you want to keep deepening in your awakening and embodied joy.
If you have had a 1on1 session this is best done once you have a transcribed the session. It also works best if you have listened to the session recording or read over the transcript a few times.
1. Make a quiet space where you will not be interrupted
It can be helpful to have ambient or meditation music going on in the background through a stereo.
If you have had a 1on1 session have your MP3 player device ready to go, with the 1on1 coaching session queued to start and the headphones in your ears. Enter a state of meditation as described in the Meditation Instructions pages or use your own technique. When your consciousness has settled, as shown in Step 3 or Step 4 of the Meditation Instructions, you are ready to proceed with your Inquiry. You will be connected with your inner space and Presence, as well as your body.
2. Start the inquiry
When you are peaceful and ready to start working with the material that you want to address. If you have a recording of a coaching session; push ‘play’ and listen. Listen to a sentence or two. Press ‘pause’ on the MP3 player. Get a sense of what is being said. Feel it, feel the emotions, and be aware of the words.
As you listen and feel, be aware of the space or stillness represented by the yellow stars in the diagram. Where it says ‘relinquish’ or consider something, say that in your mind and feel it, feel it. Let go of any resistance around this through accepting and embracing what is being discussed. Then acknowledge within that it is OK for this belief, emotion or behaviour to be released. Feel it leave or dissolve into the stillness that is the deeper you.
3. Alternate between Presence and inquiry
If you are doing this by yourself and looking at an issue, then recall that issue and feel. This is represented by the horizontal arrows in the icon. You are going into and being with your human stuff. It’s important to stay aware of the body. Tummy, sacrum and bum. Allowing your self to sit and “Be” with emotions is critical. This is represented by the up / down arrows, for the vertical alignment with Presence. It is the holding of your Presence / Awakened State that allows these feeling to move through. If you avoid the feelings you will not get full alignment. This can be tricky, and a 1on1 coaching session is recommended if you find this difficult. Not only does this help release these patterns and emotions it also builds up your emotional intelligence. This step takes practice, its a master skill you develop over weeks to years and decades.
However with this Inquiry process and your Presence / Awakened Sate practice it will be more than that and be a level of emotional mastery that I call emotional competency. Emotional competency means you can feel the emotions with Stillness and space and choose what you do with it, it has no ‘after burn’. After burn being where you stew or re-think events through. Also when you feel emotions, in the non-abiding phase they have no past baggage so they are clearer, and don’t install more trauma in you mind and emotional system.
4. Explore the emotion, behaviour and situations
Explore that instance and what beliefs crop up. Say, as above, “I relinquish…..” and let your mind and inner child say what it needs to let it out. Don’t judge anything, just let it flow. Stop frequently and be aware of the body and your Stillness that allows these body parts to exist. If you cannot sense you physical body then strongly contract you pelvic floor muscles. Then resume relinquishing. In this stage you are literally examining the puzzle of you deep unconscious and subconscious.
If it does not dissolve, repeat the relinquishing statement with your inner voice. If it still remains, again, ask inside your own mind what are the other beliefs and reasons that I need to let go of and listen and go with what comes up. It is the listening and acknowledging that is the powerful releasing tool, not judging if it is correct or not. This aspect is quite tricky and we will cover the finer aspects of this allowance and release in our sessions.
If the part you are working with says something more; then say I relinquish ..(and say that something again) and feel it, because you are acknowledging those beliefs and related emotions that are holding you back. Do that a few more times. When it feels like there is nothing else, take the ‘pause’ button off, press ‘play’ and move onto the next item.
When you have done the relinquishing, do the acceptances if any were given. You can repeat the acceptances as many times as you like. Then at a later date go back and just re-do the acceptances to get familiar with them and the feelings associated with them.
If you sense any resistance ask, what is the resistance? You may get more words and more beliefs. Alternatively, write a note about it and we can take a look at the next session.
With this process it is important not to get caught up with the words, the idea of relinquishing or of accepting. Saying these things merely sets the intention to acknowledge, be open to and make conscious a deeper inner process. As you become conscious of your unconsciousness, you can change it – because you have made what was previously unaware unconsciousness to be conscious and volitional. This is not a mantra, belief change, nor an affirmation process its way deeper than that.
5. Dropping into Stillness
When your unconscious mind-body-spirit system is ready it will release the emotion and all associated beliefs. You literally snap into Stillness. Peace is felt. It is over. Congratulations, this layer old old you has now returned to the wholeness of your infinite Beingness. When you drop into that place give your self the time to sit and enjoy, rather than push on or do any more activity. Sometimes this happens quickly, sometimes this final stage is after a lot of time sitting in meditation & inquiry.
The stillness of Presence, which is your awakened state, is always the key indicator, and it is never wrong.
This process takes time, and when you do drop into the Stillness, then you know a significant shift has occurred regards the material you are inquiring into. This process is discussed more in the advanced Inquiry page.
Depending on your skills sets and other therapy and emotional processing skills you may then be in the position to glean the wisdom out of the old behaviour patterns and turn that into Wisdom. Again the key with all this is the frequent dropping back into your awakened state, your Presence. The Stillness allows that full alignment to occur, thus all levels of you shift. Without the Stillness of being some levels can be left out and behaviour and belief patterns may remain or not change.
The Laws of Grace make this clear
Its the habit of consciously choosing to return to this awakened state is what deepens it and makes it “normal” until you abide there. So start now and practice, you will succeed its mathematical, just depends how soon you hit the numbers to make it a normal habit for you.
The value of 1on1 mentoring here with a tough personal issue will show you how to use this process. You can be taken through this Inquiry process with a live issue, then later to can listen and practice to it. If you want to learn the most potent conscious change tool ever then hit the button below.